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Posted: Fri Aug 12, 2011 11:02 am
For all parents out there...
My six year old boy is going through the lying stage.
Some excerpts of articles that were passed along to us from our friends and G.P.:
- A liar will repeat the question for reassurance.
- Liars will sometimes imply answers instead of denying them.
_ Lying takes longer than telling the truth, so the time to answer may indicate a lie. Lying will take longer because liars need more time to think of an elaborate and plausible story.
- A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.
- A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away. • A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”
- A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”
- Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.
- The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you.
- If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.
This is an excerpt from this site: http://www.statementanalysis.com/
"Statement Analysis is the most accurate way of determining if a person is lying in a verbal or written statement. A person cannot give a lengthy deceptive statement without revealing that it is a lie. This is because people's words will betray them. There are usually several ways you can phrase a statement. People will always word their statement based on all their knowledge. Therefore, their statement may contain information they did not intend to share. Even though they want to withhold information, people will give us more information than what they realize. Unfortunately, they sometimes give us more information than what we realize. The key is to listen to what people are telling you and to know what to look for in a statement."
- Lying is Easy
Detecting deception is also difficult because, despite what most people think, lying is very easy to do. Children learn to lie at an early age and they are very good at it
- And our skills at lying only increase as we get older. In fact, adults lie everyday without much awareness of what they are doing. Ironically, people lie so often that they actually begin to believe their own lies.
- Over-Confidence Provides Comfort, But It Hurts Accuracy
- Not only are people good at lying, but most people like to think that they can tell when the truth is being told.
Hope this helps!
Ian
My six year old boy is going through the lying stage.
Some excerpts of articles that were passed along to us from our friends and G.P.:
- A liar will repeat the question for reassurance.
- Liars will sometimes imply answers instead of denying them.
_ Lying takes longer than telling the truth, so the time to answer may indicate a lie. Lying will take longer because liars need more time to think of an elaborate and plausible story.
- A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.
- A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away. • A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”
- A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”
- Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.
- The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you.
- If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.
This is an excerpt from this site: http://www.statementanalysis.com/
"Statement Analysis is the most accurate way of determining if a person is lying in a verbal or written statement. A person cannot give a lengthy deceptive statement without revealing that it is a lie. This is because people's words will betray them. There are usually several ways you can phrase a statement. People will always word their statement based on all their knowledge. Therefore, their statement may contain information they did not intend to share. Even though they want to withhold information, people will give us more information than what they realize. Unfortunately, they sometimes give us more information than what we realize. The key is to listen to what people are telling you and to know what to look for in a statement."
- Lying is Easy
Detecting deception is also difficult because, despite what most people think, lying is very easy to do. Children learn to lie at an early age and they are very good at it
- And our skills at lying only increase as we get older. In fact, adults lie everyday without much awareness of what they are doing. Ironically, people lie so often that they actually begin to believe their own lies.
- Over-Confidence Provides Comfort, But It Hurts Accuracy
- Not only are people good at lying, but most people like to think that they can tell when the truth is being told.
Hope this helps!
Ian
